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Originally Posted by abaya
Problem is, we're not professionals, mate. You haven't responded to any of the suggestions about counseling yet. I would say that the answer is not in private-messaging (especially not me, sorry--not when you're in this situation), but in getting yourself to someone who can actually help you get to the bottom of what's going on in your head. And talking with your wife. Start with the porn conversation if you need to, instead of the sister situation--but get the communication open with your wife.
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There is a difference between helping and solving, and you guys have helped already. Putting things on paper, or talking them through with somebody else generally helps in all sorts of situations. It helps you sort out reality from hope, desire from need (what I would like and what is most important to me). This is purely an expression, and not indicative of my state, but I can't think of a better expression: you've talked me down from the ledge, and I'm thankful. The problem isn't solved, but I don't feel as hopeless about it, and I don't feel the need to something rash. Thank you.