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Old 08-21-2008, 10:57 PM   #18 (permalink)
genuinegirly
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I agree with this part of your post:

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Originally Posted by AgadorSpartacus View Post

I realize that women come in all shapes and sizes, but that doesn't mean you look appropriate in everything. Clothes are out there for every body type. I've had a motto for years, "just because it comes in your size, doesn't mean you should wear it!"
But I do not agree with the rest.


I don't look very good in some colors or styles. I know this. I work with that knowledge. I didn't always know what worked with my body type, but my sister fixed that. Some people don't have such an influence in their lives. it is sad, but true. Agador - Since you seem to have a good eye for what looks bad, why not train your eye to see what looks good. Perhaps you can work with any personal friends who have difficulties working with their body types to find an ideal wardrobe that flatters.

Agador's remarks are cutting and judgemental. If she were to make these comments about someone in front of me, I would work to change the topic. I would also attempt to avoid her in the future. Unproductive and hurtful remarks toward other women encourage a negative body image. Many self-respecting women cannot hear such comments without wondering if someone would lay similar harsh judgment on their behavior or sense of fashion. Self-doubt ensues, and life becomes more difficult.

No, Agador, I'm afraid such comments will not gain you many friends. Here, or elsewhere. Your message is meaningful. Unfortunately you have chosen to express it in a shallow and potentially damaging manner.


Jenna I think the photograph of the woman wearing a bikini that you posted is quite beautiful and flattering. Her confidence makes the image a delight.
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