View Single Post
Old 08-21-2008, 03:21 PM   #62 (permalink)
abaya
 
abaya's Avatar
 
Location: Iceland
Quote:
Originally Posted by jorgelito View Post
There's a few things going on over there too I would imagine. Him "ignoring" you may be because 1.) you are a woman, and 2.) you don't look "Muslim" to him. Both are awful answers I know. This happens a lot. It's like when people ignore you because you don't fit their preconceived notion of the group. It's one of the pitfalls of diversity estrangement.
Oh, I know--and those two things occurred to me almost immediately, as well (especially after traveling in Lebanon--though really, I've been mistaken for Lebanese now and then, just upon first glance).

I understand it from a cultural perspective, but from a personal one, I always find myself wanting to get right back in people's faces about it and show them what a mistake it was for them to make those kinds of assumptions about me. (Of course, that's usually just my gut reaction and I don't act on it.) I'm an assertive person, but I don't take well at all to aggressive people. Who does, really?
__________________
And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.

--Khalil Gibran
abaya is offline  
 

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26 27 28 29 30 31 32 33 34 35 36 37 38 39 40 41 42 43 44 45 46 47