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Originally Posted by jorgelito
Hmm..maybe that guy finds comfort in shared similarities. So for this guy, he has nothing else to go on but "looks" so he takes guesses and stabs in the dark to find/meet people he can identify with.
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I usually can tell if someone is looking for someone to "identify" with, and I don't mind that. I did not get that feeling from this guy, especially when he reacted strongly to ktsp for saying he was "sort of" a Muslim. It was almost a question of, "Are you Muslim?--prove it by saying the Muslim greeting to me" and since ktsp didn't say it, the guy didn't hesitate to make ktsp feel uncomfortable about it within 2 seconds of meeting him.
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Originally Posted by dlish
on the subject of people actually caring about what otehrs believe in, its also necesary to know that its also a part of the islamic brotherhood to care enough about who your brothers are and to greet them well with the greetings of peace. i see no malice in that.
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Now, I can understand this as well--and this might have been the guy's approach to the whole thing. But it just felt so aggressive... less about caring, more about judging... nothing about the encounter felt very open or kind.
It also occurred to me that the guy was asking ktsp, not me, this question--and I was standing closer to the guy, and he did not even acknowledge me standing there, who I was, how I was connected to ktsp, or whether I was a Muslim. Again, most likely a cultural thing, but as an American woman living in Iceland--I was thinking, "HEY man, I'm right here, and I'll answer your question too... and you probably won't like the answer!"