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Originally Posted by onesnowyowl
This is also the issue I wrestle with, but on the flipside, in the town I live in and among the people I work for, keeping the last name is the norm. So which choice is conformity at that point?
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Well, right. That was the weird thing about changing my name while being in academia--there, everyone expected me to keep my name, whereas the vast majority of the rest of American women expected me to change it.
The thing is, conformity to the vast majority is still a lot more conforming to a small minority (and yes, it is still a VERY small minority of women who keep their names after marriage, in the US). I know that in essence, I was still pretty much conforming to the dominant tradition. It was a really difficult decision for me.