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I want to have kids and I will use the necessary and available means to have children.
I make no judgment of people who choose IVF, insemination, adoption or otherwise.
It's a personal choice.
I know that at least for me, I have no wish to adopt. It may be a selfish thing, but that's how I feel. I don't totally exclude it...it's just not on my list of things I'd love to do.
I don't feel this selfless need to help others in me. I will help...but not because it's the right or good thing to do. When I help others it's because I truly care about them, and feel that what help I can offer will really make a difference to improve their lives. I have to have a connection with them in order to do this though. If the opportunity to connect does not present itself, I don't chase after it. Some people have that kind of altruism in them. I do not.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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