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my parents met each other from different states, and then moved out west to california where they knew no one. so i grew up with only my 2 parents and sister to start with. i would always hear about this buddy's reunion or that buddy's cousin's bday, and kinda wish i had that going on.
so i ended up deciding to pick out my own family through my friendships. i just looked for people who valued friendship the same way I do along with having the same interests and things to do of course. now i have a great network of friends and they all think each other are awesome too whenever we end up hanging out.
i definitely have differing degrees or circles of friends based on how well or long i've known them and how much i trust them, but even the 2nd and 3rd circle feels really tight to me.
if you want to start over and have a circle or 2 of friends, you just need to find something you can stand to do that involves a social scene and take part in it somehow for another. for me, it revolves around music. and i'm not even a musician. but i'm good at appreciating it as a fan, and i'm good at social networking, so i can still help my musician friends out. so while i never have a show all my friends come to, i'm always invited to their shows and parties and after-parties, and we have a mini- reunion of our friends every time something happens like that.
it's definitely worth it to have at least a few casual friends you can call to get out with.... you can motivate each other to build your lives up that way.
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-my phobia drowned while i was gettin down.
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