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Throughout my 20's I saw most of my friends either move away, start families, or just disappear, effectively ending the "hanging out" part of our relationship. And I tend to have a "Randal" personality, which makes finding new friends hard because I call it like I see it, even when I should probably keep my mouth shut. I also am horrible at keeping in contact with people unless I actually have something important to talk about. Now I was an only child, so I've learned how to entertain myself over the years, but I still wish I had the old group of friends to get together with and just BS and kill time. I basically have one close friend, and we have the same outlook on life, so we constantly call each other to bitch about the world, but because of family and work, we probably hang out together no more than once a month. My age group seems to consist mostly of married folk with young families, which makes finding friends with spare time to do things difficult. If it weren't for my fiancee, I'd probably go nuts. Luckily she's up for just about anything (and is immune to my bullshit), and has joined me in many of my hobbies.
Long story short, while I have never had 0 friends, I know how you feel, and I wish I had some advice for you on how to make friends easy, but I am shitty at it myself. Its starting to bother me more now than it did in the past, but I really have no idea how to go about things differently. Good luck to ya no matter what you decide.
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