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Originally Posted by ItWasMe
I'm going to guess that you haven't been together long, and that's part of why this ex bothers you so? Do you think you would feel differently, less threatened if they had been together for 6 months instead of 3 years? Maybe it's just because she was your first, but you were not hers.
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yeah i think thats it....whenever I think of them...idk why..i get this nauseating feeling. I guess this will just take time and not think about them....cause like you guys said....shes with me instead of him
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Originally Posted by ItWasMe
If you think you are insecure and clingy, it is good that you understand why. But does she see this, and understand why? If not, that may be a good topic to discuss sometime. Some things you have to work through on your own. Some things you can work through with your partner. Either way, it is easier to deal with things when your partner knows where you are coming from.
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well I think I start to be clingy whenever I think about her and her ex....i can tell shes a little bit annoyed when I get clingy...like its where i start to say i love you a million times while she gets annoyed and just shakes her head...i know she loves me but she prolly gets annoyed when I get clingy. I dont really want to address it to her...cause what if shes not seeing it? then she will be looking for me being clingy. So maybe being more confident would help not me being clingy...
also, dont really want to tell her all this drama...she hates drama...so I feel like if i work out my insecurities and troublesomes about her ex then I could be a better man. Cause she says shes over him...he made her life a shit while they were dating...so I dont really want to bring up her ex over and over. Yeah, sometimes I feel like a rebound...but I think thats just the insecurity thinking and I got to get over that.