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re: too much sex...
From where I stand as a married guy, there's three kinds of sex:
1) Steak sex: This is passionate, engaging, creative, possibly kinkuy or exploratory, but usually just a matter of both of us being ready, eager, and focussed on each other. This should never be turned down.
2) Hamburger sex: The quickie. Sex when one partner is half awake. The grunting out of lust. It'll keep you on an even keel, but it's unhealthy to live on a steady diet of. It is relatively easy to get bored with. Sometimes it's worth doing (particularly to keep one's partner happy - she wants a tongue lashing, I want sleep. She'll get the tongue lashing because it will make her happy), sometimes it's best turned down. Here's the key: It can turn into shitty sex pretty quickly if "I'm only doing this to make you happy" becomes part of it.
3) Shitty sex - sex in anger. Sex where both partners are doing it for the other partner and neither is receptive to that. Sex as a non-kinky power game. Passive aggressive sex. Sex where the active partner is so tired they make painful mistakes (Teeth, Chocolate surprise). Ill timed bodily functions (less said about that the better). This is never worth it.
The trick is to engage one's partner in Steak grade sex every time. If you figure out how to do that, please let me know. Enough of the good stuff and the OK stuff is less important, and the bad stuff more rare.
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