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Old 08-09-2008, 01:10 PM   #20 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by twistedmosaic View Post
If you're cheating on him, just say you're cheating on him. You'll probably get some emotional heat at this point, but honestly, you deserve it, and it WILL end the relationship. The goal isn't to save his feelings, the goal is to end the relationship. Tell him its over, tell him there is someone else. This will hopefully make him paranoid enough in his next relationship that he can see the warning signs of someone cheating on him before it gets to this point.
I don't really know if that would be a good thing or not. I've known people who were so paranoid about being cheated on that they'd start to assume that their SOs were cheating on them, which ironically enough, would typically lead to them cheating (or leaving) due to the constant accusations.

Personally, I'm of the opinion that the person should only be told enough to get the point across, any more could be seen as unnecessary piling on. If being told that she's not happy would be enough for him to accept that it's over, then that could be all that needs to be said. On the other hand, if that would set him off into trying to improve something that can't be improved, then it might be necessary to mention the other person just to help drive the point home.

And as far as I'm aware, I don't think it's been explicitly stated that she was "cheating on" her current bf, just that there was "someone else"... that could mean that there's just an attraction to someone else, combined with dissatisfaction with the current situation.

Or I could be just missing the subtext....
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