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Originally Posted by Hyacinthe
I think you're confusing femininity with submission to stereotype, a feminine woman is not necessarily demure and delicate and girly, screw that for a joke. Look at the Amazons, Venus, Hera, Athena, Bastest, Brigit, Ceridwen, Freya the list goes on, all of them beautiful feminine Goddesses worshipped by cultures for thousand of years no matter their role in the pantheon. They didn't care about being 'girly'.
The same holds true in the animal kingdom, female animals are usually the most deadly. This doesn't decrease their desirability in any way shape of form, if anything it makes them better mothers. providers and mates.
I consider myself to be quite feminine, has nothing to do with what I wear or what I'm doing but it's the simply fact that I'm at ease with myself. I find that self confidence is what I find most feminine, if you can close your eyes and go back to one moment when you felt gorgeous, truly beautiful, you'll get a little smile and your eyes will darken, you might blush a little and that's what I find for me sums up feminimity. Those small gestures, the placement of a hand the carrying of a heavy box balaced against one hip small almost un-noticeable things.
That to me is femininity, not a pretty dress or long hair but being totally at ease with the fact that you're a woman and KNOWING that doesn't make you any different as an individual then if you were male.
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This is a great post, Hyacinthe, and it pretty much sums up how I feel about the issue.
My mother taught me that being feminine is about being strong, having the strength to do what needs to be done, having the mental fortitude to get through it. She says I am stronger than she will ever be, and that I have a spine of steel, but unlike her, my spine is relatively untested. But it is that inner female strength that makes me feel feminine.
She taught me that it is perfectly acceptable to wear make-up when I feel like it, and to go without it when I don't. I grew up playing with Barbies one minute and running outside to build tree forts with my friends the next--most of which were boys. All of these things are irrelevant to what I am inside, really. And I am a woman.
We like to think that femininity is expressed in trappings, in nail polish, in hairspray, and in lip gloss. But femininity is something inside yourself--not something you do to your outside. It doesn't matter if you wear high heels or combat boots--you can still be feminine, regardless.