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Human beings did not evolve for monogamy -- especially men. It's nothing against you; it's just biology. All this well-intentioned advice will not, I'm afraid, be of any help to you. The reality is that we evolved to have several different partners simultaneously and our bodies and psyches don't give a damn about contemporary morality. Before anyone says, "Well, we can rise above our evolved nature," let me stipulate that yes, we can. Sometimes. But not without paying a price. It is our nature to get plenty of exercise and eat low fat diets. We can ignore that, but look what happens to us. Men respond to novelty in sexual partners above all else. It's the same with most male mammals. It's called the Coolidge Effect. Ask any farmer. If you don't change up the females, the male loses interest rather quickly.
Sad, perhaps, but true. Hot sex is the result of youth + desire + obstacles (you were only together one weekend a month, remember?). Now that you're together, it's simply not realistic to expect your sex lives to be like they were before. You can't eat your delicious dinner and still be hungry. Such is life.
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