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PearlSonja9 · 08-04-2008, 07:15 AM

Hi,

I just joined this forum because of this thread also. I am also a 26 year old virgin, but not for religious reasons. I spent a good part of my teens and early twenties suffering from major depression and low self esteem. Because of that, I did not date. Now that I finally have my problems under control, I have finally started dating. I use online dating sites because I don't have much of a social life.

The difficult thing is when I do go out with these guys, they expect sex early on, like the third date the latest. I am not waiting till I am married; I am waiting until I am comfortable with the person. When I tell guys that, I never see them again. It is getting so frustrating. I know I am not alone, because I recently read an article from Salon.com about women my age or older who are still virgins. (The 30-year-old virgins | Salon Life) But it is so hard to find a guy who is willing to wait about a month, and I've also never told these guys that I am still a virgin. Most people don't know, except for my immediate family. And even there I get pressure from my two unkind sisters, who tell me I should just "get it over with" and sleep on the third date. They don't understand that I want to be comfortable with the person.

So, that is my story. I am done ranting. I just wanted to post this to the thread starter and everyone else that is reading this who is still a virgin at a late age that you are never alone.

Cheers!

08-04-2008, 07:15 AM	#55 (permalink)
PearlSonja9 Upright Location: NYC	Hi, I just joined this forum because of this thread also. I am also a 26 year old virgin, but not for religious reasons. I spent a good part of my teens and early twenties suffering from major depression and low self esteem. Because of that, I did not date. Now that I finally have my problems under control, I have finally started dating. I use online dating sites because I don't have much of a social life. The difficult thing is when I do go out with these guys, they expect sex early on, like the third date the latest. I am not waiting till I am married; I am waiting until I am comfortable with the person. When I tell guys that, I never see them again. It is getting so frustrating. I know I am not alone, because I recently read an article from Salon.com about women my age or older who are still virgins. (The 30-year-old virgins \| Salon Life) But it is so hard to find a guy who is willing to wait about a month, and I've also never told these guys that I am still a virgin. Most people don't know, except for my immediate family. And even there I get pressure from my two unkind sisters, who tell me I should just "get it over with" and sleep on the third date. They don't understand that I want to be comfortable with the person. So, that is my story. I am done ranting. I just wanted to post this to the thread starter and everyone else that is reading this who is still a virgin at a late age that you are never alone. Cheers!