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Slims · 08-03-2008, 03:54 PM

I don't believe I would allow my daughter to get fat in the first place. If you teach healthy lifestyle habits from the beginning there will be no hard adjustments or teasing as your kid will never be overweight. However, if you have failed to teach your child good lifestyle habits and she became fat, I would tell her flat out. How will being dishonest with her help her in any way? If I chose to wear something that looked ridiculous, I would hope that those close to me would respect me enough to tell me before I humiliated myself.

I fail to see how weight gain, or loss, isn't a matter of choice. You either choose to supersize that double quarter pounder meal or you choose to not stuff your face with far more calories than your body is able to burn.

I am a very active person, who works out daily and lives an active lifestyle, which means I burn a lot more calories than the average person. However, I have yet to meet an obese person who doesn't eat more than me on a daily basis.

My parents are both oveweight, and sedentary. They eat three full meals a day (with seconds) and are continually astonished when I eat less than them.

I put on a few pounds when I was finishing up my trip to Afghanistan. I can chalk it up to stress, glands, or whatever, but in the end I put on weight because I stopped lifting and working out the way I had been, and I kept my calorie intake high. When I got back and looked in the mirror I was ashamed enough to work to fix the problem. And by work I mean I actually *worked* out, and didn't just *go* to the gym. When I diet, I don't just eat less, I eat less than my body uses which drives weightloss. I have never met a person for whom this won't work.

I will caveat that by saying I realize Diabetes, Congestive Heart Failure, etc. can make weight management extremely difficult. But the valid excuse of a sick few doesn't apply to the vast mooing masses who continue to drive food prices up while making excuses for their obsession with McDonalds.

Oh, and as far as how our countries obesity epidemic impacts me:
It is driving up my helthcare costs; when I ride public transportation I frequently have to share my seat with the fat person sitting next to me; being military, I have seen several fat people who are unable to do their jobs, thus forcing us non-fat people to do more work; it is hard to find a non lard-ass sized meal at a restaurant these days; I have to buy tailored dress shirts as store bought ones are huge around the waist; Clothes in general are hard to shop for as companies always seem to have that 46X30" pair of jeans but 30X32" often isn't even made anymore.

08-03-2008, 03:54 PM	#34 (permalink)
Slims Eccentric insomniac Location: North Carolina	I don't believe I would allow my daughter to get fat in the first place. If you teach healthy lifestyle habits from the beginning there will be no hard adjustments or teasing as your kid will never be overweight. However, if you have failed to teach your child good lifestyle habits and she became fat, I would tell her flat out. How will being dishonest with her help her in any way? If I chose to wear something that looked ridiculous, I would hope that those close to me would respect me enough to tell me before I humiliated myself. I fail to see how weight gain, or loss, isn't a matter of choice. You either choose to supersize that double quarter pounder meal or you choose to not stuff your face with far more calories than your body is able to burn. I am a very active person, who works out daily and lives an active lifestyle, which means I burn a lot more calories than the average person. However, I have yet to meet an obese person who doesn't eat more than me on a daily basis. My parents are both oveweight, and sedentary. They eat three full meals a day (with seconds) and are continually astonished when I eat less than them. I put on a few pounds when I was finishing up my trip to Afghanistan. I can chalk it up to stress, glands, or whatever, but in the end I put on weight because I stopped lifting and working out the way I had been, and I kept my calorie intake high. When I got back and looked in the mirror I was ashamed enough to work to fix the problem. And by work I mean I actually worked out, and didn't just go to the gym. When I diet, I don't just eat less, I eat less than my body uses which drives weightloss. I have never met a person for whom this won't work. I will caveat that by saying I realize Diabetes, Congestive Heart Failure, etc. can make weight management extremely difficult. But the valid excuse of a sick few doesn't apply to the vast mooing masses who continue to drive food prices up while making excuses for their obsession with McDonalds. Oh, and as far as how our countries obesity epidemic impacts me: It is driving up my helthcare costs; when I ride public transportation I frequently have to share my seat with the fat person sitting next to me; being military, I have seen several fat people who are unable to do their jobs, thus forcing us non-fat people to do more work; it is hard to find a non lard-ass sized meal at a restaurant these days; I have to buy tailored dress shirts as store bought ones are huge around the waist; Clothes in general are hard to shop for as companies always seem to have that 46X30" pair of jeans but 30X32" often isn't even made anymore. __________________ "Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance, and the gospel of envy, its inherent virtue is the equal sharing of misery." - Winston Churchill "All men dream: but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act out their dream with open eyes, to make it possible." Seven Pillars of Wisdom, T.E. Lawrence Last edited by Slims; 08-03-2008 at 04:07 PM..