I understand precisely what you mean. I often don't feel very feminine unless I'm putting on "girly" clothes and makeup. Then, I feel somewhat artificial. Like I'm playing dress up and pretending to be another person. At other times, I'll be reminded that I'm female by a male's reaction to me. But most times, I don't think of myself as a woman first. Most times, I think of myself as a person and as a woman second. I don't think the way I feel is necessarily social conditioning, because if that were the case, I'd be a lot more talkative and flirty. I think it's just a result of being who I am. I've grown up seeing strong women and have come to see women as equal to men. So, I guess in general, I don't think of most people as men and women, just people. Not to say that I don't notice genders, I just mean that I don't like to put people in a pre-defined box.
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