Originally Posted by punkmusicfan21

Ever been there?

It's not being PC at all and you're completely missing the point. It's not about encouraging being fat, it's about putting a child in the best position to change their lives. Instilling the idea of failure on a child often leads to a lack of confidence. How many people so you know, Stare, that have a serious lack of confidence that succeed at almost everything they do; are even happy?

I'm so happy being who I am and nothing has to do with my weight or the fact that I'm fit; I love the kind of guy I've become, and the kind of life I live. In fact, the more and more I tried to lose it when I hated it, the worse it got. I accpeted it and lost 70 pounds. I'd rather that then hate what and who I am. Its people like you who think it's okay to tell someone they are failing because they can't overcome something with ease, in hopes that it will encourage them to win. Not everyone operates on the same level; not everyone succeeds instantly. Man, I use to peer mentor kids who were amazing people but were seriously fucked up because their parents "encouraged" them to live better lives by forcing generalized bullshit like "societal norms" on people.

I know that you're saying "healthy is healthy" but we are talking about kids; even worse, teens.

And I don't care how geeky, or fat, or ugly, or smelly, or whatever my kid is; if they are happy then the rest will come to them. I'll help them.