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Anal sex between men as an expression of dominance and control began in prehistory and flourished as a social interaction in the Roman empire. Having anal sex with another man did not mean you were gay, in fact preferring men and having feelings for them had serious stigma, but anal sex between men was frequent. The man on top was in control and dominating the man on bottom, who was in the position of the female--and we all know women are inferior.
We haven't come very far since then. Being penetrated is still considred inferior by many, not because it's not as pleasurable (some would say the opposite) but because it's passive, receptive, and considered effeminate, as compared to the aggressive "yang" energy that a man is supposed to express by penetrating. The giver of oral is similarly being penetrated and there are many people who consider fellatio to be degrading as well.
I can see how for some couples who are particularly fixated on power dynamics, mutual frottage might be the only solution wherein the two parties could be equals. Another alternative could be 69 lying on their sides, or mutual masturbation.
On the other hand, more easygoing lovers may enjoy the power dynamic, take turns giving and receiving, or just not care about such things.
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