I'm probably late on giving my 2 cents in this topic but here goes. i had the opposite effect i was the the "dude" that was in a band and well my ex boyfriend was the somewhat the 2nd fiddle. I was a drummer in an all guy band. And would spend odd hours with them practicing and writing songs. Which in turn meant spending less time with him. Which for awhile made him upset seeing it we talking through it and agreed that since I'm not a big fan of chess that i wouldn't object him spending hours either online nor out in the world searching for players in the park. In the end we would spend hours apart but than end up shacking up later on in the week or something and it was awesome
