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miteyfrustrated · 07-22-2008, 04:05 PM

His father died before he was born. I tried to provide him with positive male models, and they did not need succeed. The current role model, and it seems everyone else around my son just gets annoyed. I pay my son plenty of attention and I guess he looks at it like, negative attention is better than none. Like I said the problem is, No one can stand to be around him for to long. As far as coddling him, maybe in the beginning I was. I try not to. I tell him to grow up and act his age. He is a very smart kid, with an 11.7 math level and he thinks outside play is not for him. Shoot, tonight I went outside with him and his daughter to do yardwork. Now after we eat dinner going to go to the park so they can play and maybe meet some other kids. We live in a small time, as far as day camp, the closest thing we have is Vacation Bible School at night. We do have a military base not far from here, so maybe that is the option. I just want what is best for him and for him to succeed at whatever he does, except I do not want him to be some kind of couch potato with no morals, beliefs or weighing in at 900 pounds because he is too lazy to do something else. I have not shown him this behavior. I work hard and have instilled in all of my children the benefits of hard work. I am not lazy and I thought they would follow suit. All of them have, except the one that I am talking about.
Thank you, I will look into something for him to do during the day. I just dont want him thinking I am rejecting him. I am doing this out of love for him and his future.
-----Added 22/7/2008 at 08 : 11 : 26-----
I am not making any excuses for his behavior. About a month ago he was involved in a rollover accident and has not been the same since. Been looking into some psychiatric help.. Not sure if that is what I need to do. I know that I have gave in to his whining and I am done with it. I have had it up to my ears with this and I am putting my foot down. He cries when he has to be outside. This morning it was raining, not cold and I told him and his sister to go play in it. I did it when I was a kid, why not do it and enjoy it. I did give him an option this afternoon, I will not make it fun to be inside anymore. Chores, first and then outside as long as it is nice and not storming. I know it is my fault. Now is it to late to change it?

07-22-2008, 04:05 PM	#35 (permalink)
miteyfrustrated Upright	His father died before he was born. I tried to provide him with positive male models, and they did not need succeed. The current role model, and it seems everyone else around my son just gets annoyed. I pay my son plenty of attention and I guess he looks at it like, negative attention is better than none. Like I said the problem is, No one can stand to be around him for to long. As far as coddling him, maybe in the beginning I was. I try not to. I tell him to grow up and act his age. He is a very smart kid, with an 11.7 math level and he thinks outside play is not for him. Shoot, tonight I went outside with him and his daughter to do yardwork. Now after we eat dinner going to go to the park so they can play and maybe meet some other kids. We live in a small time, as far as day camp, the closest thing we have is Vacation Bible School at night. We do have a military base not far from here, so maybe that is the option. I just want what is best for him and for him to succeed at whatever he does, except I do not want him to be some kind of couch potato with no morals, beliefs or weighing in at 900 pounds because he is too lazy to do something else. I have not shown him this behavior. I work hard and have instilled in all of my children the benefits of hard work. I am not lazy and I thought they would follow suit. All of them have, except the one that I am talking about. Thank you, I will look into something for him to do during the day. I just dont want him thinking I am rejecting him. I am doing this out of love for him and his future. -----Added 22/7/2008 at 08 : 11 : 26----- I am not making any excuses for his behavior. About a month ago he was involved in a rollover accident and has not been the same since. Been looking into some psychiatric help.. Not sure if that is what I need to do. I know that I have gave in to his whining and I am done with it. I have had it up to my ears with this and I am putting my foot down. He cries when he has to be outside. This morning it was raining, not cold and I told him and his sister to go play in it. I did it when I was a kid, why not do it and enjoy it. I did give him an option this afternoon, I will not make it fun to be inside anymore. Chores, first and then outside as long as it is nice and not storming. I know it is my fault. Now is it to late to change it? Last edited by miteyfrustrated; 07-22-2008 at 04:11 PM.. Reason: Automerged Doublepost