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Sultana · 07-04-2008, 08:57 AM

This is an interesting topic for me at this stage of my life. As many of you know, my ex left me (ummm, after I threw him out! LOL) almost exactly a year ago. I went from being a healthy, curvy, and firm woman to very slender. Lost about 20-25 lbs. I actually really enjoyed it, but Every Single Day reminded myself that this was not my normal size, and that as I healed emotionally, I'd regain the weight.

I also noted how I really liked how my lower half looked, but my upper half was way too skinny. Grrr. I realized that I'd always have an ample bottom half if I had boobies (and I loved and missed my boobies!).

By this time I've returned mostly to my usual. It's been a bit of an adjustment, and yeah, I do want to lose about 10 lbs, just to have more wiggle room, mostly at that time of the month (when my biology betrays me horribly and predictably).

I'm actually kinda surprised by how well I've accepted being back at my reg. weight (I honestly think it's part of being more mature at 37 than I was at 27-ish). I feel good about myself, I am still *very* active and watch what I eat, although I'm not insane about it. And happily, now that I'm single I have many kind men and women telling me how hot I am, so that never hurts.

As long as I fit into the clothes I love and I'm firm, I'm good to go. I just wish my tummy weren't round, but that's just how my body has always been. But it doesn't jiggle, and that's about all I can do with it. heh.

Side note: Someone mentioned about romance dwindling when babies are born. I'm sure sometimes some of that is due to men being superficial about their momma-babies' new body, but I would venture to say that a majority of the time, it's because the new mom becomes SO FREAKIN' FOCUSED on the new baby, and views the hubby as being a baby accessory only. Ive seen that happen in nearly every couple I've known that has reproduced. It's very sad.

07-04-2008, 08:57 AM	#53 (permalink)
Sultana Falling Angel Location: L.A. L.A. land	This is an interesting topic for me at this stage of my life. As many of you know, my ex left me (ummm, after I threw him out! LOL) almost exactly a year ago. I went from being a healthy, curvy, and firm woman to very slender. Lost about 20-25 lbs. I actually really enjoyed it, but Every Single Day reminded myself that this was not my normal size, and that as I healed emotionally, I'd regain the weight. I also noted how I really liked how my lower half looked, but my upper half was way too skinny. Grrr. I realized that I'd always have an ample bottom half if I had boobies (and I loved and missed my boobies!). By this time I've returned mostly to my usual. It's been a bit of an adjustment, and yeah, I do want to lose about 10 lbs, just to have more wiggle room, mostly at that time of the month (when my biology betrays me horribly and predictably). I'm actually kinda surprised by how well I've accepted being back at my reg. weight (I honestly think it's part of being more mature at 37 than I was at 27-ish). I feel good about myself, I am still very active and watch what I eat, although I'm not insane about it. And happily, now that I'm single I have many kind men and women telling me how hot I am, so that never hurts. As long as I fit into the clothes I love and I'm firm, I'm good to go. I just wish my tummy weren't round, but that's just how my body has always been. But it doesn't jiggle, and that's about all I can do with it. heh. Side note: Someone mentioned about romance dwindling when babies are born. I'm sure sometimes some of that is due to men being superficial about their momma-babies' new body, but I would venture to say that a majority of the time, it's because the new mom becomes SO FREAKIN' FOCUSED on the new baby, and views the hubby as being a baby accessory only. Ive seen that happen in nearly every couple I've known that has reproduced. It's very sad. __________________ "Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come." - Matt Groening My goal? To fulfill my potential.