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Originally Posted by Shauk
it gets old, by the way
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Which does -- not being nice, or admitting it?
If it's the latter, I feel the need to point out that I wouldn't bring it up so often if people didn't seem to think it necessary to point out that I'm being mean. I know that what I say is often not exactly warm and fuzzy. It's the result of simple direct honesty combined with my sarcastic sense of humour. Regardless, when people tell me I'm being mean my standard response is to point out that I've never claimed that I would be anything different. Cause and effect, my good man.
If it's the former, well that's just the way I am. I am a generous and caring person, but I don't feel the need to spare anyone's feelings. Given that everyone here is hypothetically an adult, I don't think anyone should need me to.
I used to be a nice guy. The sort of guy who would never dream of being rude or disrespectful. I found out through experience that it's not all it's cracked up to be. I got tired of people not listening to me, people trying to take advantage of me, people being rude or disrespectful to me. I got tired of watching people over and over as they created these bad situations and then complained about them as if they were someone else's fault. I firmly believe that one of the biggest problems in the western world is that so few people are willing to take responsibility for their own actions. It creates a society where it's necessary to put a warning label on a hair dryer to tell people not to use it in the bath. It's stupid and it's a problem and I refuse to be a party to it.
Like I said, I don't call people names. I will never tell you you're an idiot. I will never tell you you're stupid, or immature or anything else for that matter. What I will do is point out when you're acting that way. It may seem like a subtle distinction, but it's significant for the simple fact that if you take steps to correct said behaviour I will show you nothing but respect.
I'm aware that being the 'honest to a fault' guy probably isn't winning me a lot of admirers. I know it's not likely to make me popular. These things are not a priority for me. I have my friends, and enough of them that I figure I must be doing something right. The opinion of the rest of the world at large is irrelevant, so far as I'm concerned.
And that's pretty much all I have to say about that.