girldetective

Ah. So you wondered about his ideal and when he told you you became unhappy with yourself? Why did you ask knowing that you probably could not live up to a perfect fantasy woman? If you didnt ask, did you watch to see where he looked and determine which sort of person he seemed to take the most pleasure in? Why did you do that? Or, is it he simply just told you in passing, such as saying shes so pretty or whatever? If so, did you think to mention that wasnt real helpful in your relationship?

Being new again I notice things. I notice that some men sometimes make it readily apparent to us what they like a woman to look like. This is unfair to us and not helpful at all to the partnering. On the other hand, I see some women, like you, who may want to be that person for the man because I believe we girls are service oriented and like to do well for others. I have lots of experience with this, most recently being Tpop's babydoll. However, this is also not helpful to us or the relationship as far a everyday situations (opposed to funsex situations).

I have been thinking a lot about men/women and will return to this later. Right now I have to go to the bank.

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