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You've got a good handle on things from the looks of it.
You keep mentioning how you feel guilty. I'm guessing you also feel, naive, used, embarrassed and ashamed.
The thing is (and ratbastid said it before I got a chance to, but I'll second it) alcoholics and other addicts are the best liars. They lie to everyone, every single day. It's what they do, and they do it amazingly well.
None of this is your fault. Not one bit. You have nothing at all to be ashamed about. You didn't spot it because he didn't want you to. He lied to you, from day one. This is not your wrongdoing.
You're doing everything that could be reasonably expected of you. Anyone who tells you that you should've known is someone who's never dealt with addictive behaviour before. Addicts when they're sober are very charming and clever and generally great people.They have to be; it's their survival mechanism. Being taken in by that does not reflect negatively on you at all.
Like several others here, I have a lot of experience with alcohol and drug addiction. I felt the same way when I was dealing with it. It's a hard lesson to learn, but ultimately you're going to have to (and be able to) accept that none of this is your fault whatsoever.
Do what you have to do. It only gets better from here.
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I wake up in the morning more tired than before I slept
I get through cryin' and I'm sadder than before I wept
I get through thinkin' now, and the thoughts have left my head
I get through speakin' and I can't remember, not a word that I said
- Ben Harper, Show Me A Little Shame
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