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Originally Posted by Aladdin Sane
Plummie, I couldn't let this statement go without comment. You are not responsible for his behavior. He would like for you to believe that his going off into a drinking rage is your fault, because that's what addicts do. But you are no more responsible for his drinking than I am. Don't buy into the guilt that drives co-dependency.
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Exactly. We can't control the behaviors of others. We can only control our own. If he flies off into a rage over what you say, that's because of who he is, not because of what you did or said.
Don't allow yourself to be responsible for his choices. He had these problems before he met you. He'll have them after you're gone. They're his issues he has to face.