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I have two addicts in my family. My father is an alcoholic and my sister is a drug addict. Both of them started about 6 years ago.. my sister got involved with drugs and my dad "coped" with alcohol. It doesn't work very well.
From my experience, you don't want to reveal to him that you are leaving until you have everything lined up. Why? If he's capable of being violent toward you, he's capable of destroying your things. When you've spent $1800 to get out of a lease, losing your furniture and personal possessions can be devastating. Also, make sure you have help when you are moving, and don't allow him to participate. Make it clear (through actions, if not through words) that you are leaving and he is no longer to be a part of your life. I had a non-violent but self-destructive boyfriend once, and I changed my phone number immediately. It's a good precaution.
Just get out asap. I agree with Bear Cub about talking to your landlord about the situation. You may be allowed out of the lease.
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