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1. I never worried about my weight at all until I started to gain it when I turned 40. Literally. Like, I turned 40 and my entire body changed. Shape, texture, metabolism.

2. I have accepted it and now I go up and down with my weight constantly depending on how much I feel like eating. Sometimes I go through periods where I just don't want to eat. This seems to keep me in balance, lol.

3. I agree with the concerns being expressed here and more men need to realize that hotness/eroticism and phsyical 'beauty' are not mutually exclusive. I'm sick to death of this, 'but, men are visual' stuff. It's a cop-out. They are spoiled by the availability of these images and translate that into an entitlement. And, unfortunately, many, many women have bought into it and hold themselves to the same unrealistic standards.

Just to narrow down what I mean, I think the standards of beauty for women are literally unrealistic. As people age, fat accumulates on their body. For most people, not everyone, but most people. To give women the message that they shouldn't allow this to happen is beyond unfair. It is cruel. Look at women in 'uncivilized' societies. As they age and have children, their bodies become softer, rounder and accumulate fat. Conversely, if you look at men in these societies, they tend to stay leaner. Although, neither of these is an absolute. These groups tend to have good, simple diets and I think we can take from this a fair measure of how our bodies 'should' develop. I find it to be pretty ironic that so many men in our society who, as far as I can tell, are just as liable to put on weight as women, find it okay to put unreasonable (and likely unattainable) expectations on women and their weight.

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