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Originally Posted by merleniau
Having a child is hard enough on a person's mind and body, rejection wouldn't really increase motivation to get back into shape after such an ordeal, in my opinion.
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Exactly.
If we're going to start making demands on our spouses to "be" a certain way before/after children, I think women have a *LOT* more room to make demands on equalizing the child-rearing process. I'm not saying that ALL men contribute less to the whole child-raising process than women do (I know a few stay-at-home dads, who are awesome), but in general, I think most people recognize that women get stuck with more child-rearing burdens than men do. Most women's bodies and careers take serious hits, not to mention the sleep schedule (at least while breast-feeding).
So sure, I'll work out hard-core for a year before and after having a child, if the man's willing to drop out of his career for that same amount of time and take a part-time job at the bookstore in order to be around for more child-care responsibilities, and let me earn the big bucks and make my ass attractive again at the gym while he changes diapers and listens to a wailing mouth all day and night.
Yeah, can anyone tell that I STILL don't want children yet?!?
And that's fine.
The only solution I can see is the way they do it in Iceland... both man and woman get equal amounts of paid leave after the birth (3-6 months minimum, EACH!). That's never going to happen in the US, unfortunately.
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Originally Posted by onesnowyowl
What I want to know is if the father wants the mother to work out so badly, is he going to step up and make sure she has the time and energy to do so? Because I know what it's like to take care of children--including newborns--for hours a day, and it can be exhausting. It's a workout in and of itself. After a full day of that, and doing it day after day after day--no, you don't want to go to the gym.
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And yes, once again... precisely.