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Wow, abaya and merleniau--your posts make me sort of glad that when I met my SO I was fat and have since lost the weight, so he had to get to know the fat me first. He's made it clear that he doesn't care what weight I am so long as I am happy with myself.
Men need to understand that the body changes irrevocably during pregnancy and birth. Yes, you can get back to being in shape and looking good, but it takes time. Real women aren't like actresses you see looking fine two weeks after birth--we don't have legions of personal trainers to whip us into shape and we don't have chefs to whip us up special whatever-the-diet-of-the-moment-is meals. What I want to know is if the father wants the mother to work out so badly, is he going to step up and make sure she has the time and energy to do so? Because I know what it's like to take care of children--including newborns--for hours a day, and it can be exhausting. It's a workout in and of itself. After a full day of that, and doing it day after day after day--no, you don't want to go to the gym.
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If I am not better, at least I am different. --Jean-Jacques Rousseau
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