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relationship advice...oh boy
Who is ready for a story?
I've been with my girlfriend for about....1 year and 4 months. We live together, I go to school (graduating in December), she works in retail. I am 21, she is 25. She dropped out of college due to lack of attendance and partying too much. However, I was able to look past that because she is a good person.
A few months ago, she lived with her mom. Her mom gave her the choice of moving with her to Wilmington (about 5 hours away) or staying here. She chose to stay here with me till I finished school, we got an apartment, everything was fine.
Then the shit hit the fan. Suddenly she misses her family and friends in Wilmington, she hates where we live, and she HAS to be in Wilmington. I tell her I can't leave cause I go to school and I need to finish. Not to mention she has a few things she needs to take care of before she can plan a big move (like going to therapy for her DUI she got while in college, or paying off her student loans). So while visiting in Wilmington, she decides to go job hunting, all behind my back.
Obviously this upsets me. I am really starting to feel like I simply do not matter to her anymore. On my 21st birthday, she decided to be the DD while a few friends and I drank and had fun. Instead she gets drunk and starts flirting with guys at the bar, I HAVE TO STOP DRINKING and take her home. 4 days after my birthday, we literally drove out to Gamestop and she bought me my gift (asked me what I wanted).
Sex is like....once a month? She is always complaining, always talking about wilmington, always saying how she will go to wilmington and wait for me while I finish school.
So today on my lunch break, we basically had a fight because I told her how I felt about the whole situation. I'm ready to end this. I love her so much but I'm not going to drag myself down to please her. I'm too young and I've got a lot going for me in the future to deal with this bull-shit.
Any advice people? This is my first serious relationship, and I'm trying not to cloud my judgement from it.
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Good Grief
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