UPDATE
So, it's been a couple of weeks since I posted here and you lot gave your awesome and varied responses.
I can't remember the circumstances exactly, but we ended up having a "big discussion" about stuff. We covered all sorts of things, but mainly how she was depressed and how that wasn't helping her be motivated about anything - including losing weight.
That conversation was definitely a watershed moment; not only has it made us a lot closer, but also we've both been going to the gym (willingly!) almost every day. There's still a lot of issues to resolve, but we're both very motivated to solve them and - most importantly - solve them
together. We are a lot happier now, and things are looking good; I'll keep you posted.
--- About the "fat" issue ---
Quite a few of you wanted to know how heavy she is and what her dimensions are. I chose not to reveal them because I didn't want a debate about what is "fat" and what isn't; in terms of % body fat, she is "obese" and that's all you need to know. It turns out hiding that this information was probably a good idea, as some of you have a radically different idea of what is overweight and what isn't, e.g.:
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say, she's 5'5" tall and 160lbs...I'd tend to think it's your problem
but if she's 5'5" and 250-300lbs it's a health issue.
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In the UK, 160lbs for someone who's 5'5" is classed as "morbidly obese"... I can't even imagine what you'd call 300lbs (about 150kg); that's about ¼ the weight of my first car!!! I mean no offense by this, it's just that I cannot comprehend how you could think it's my problem when you quote those figures.
Furthermore, it's not just her weight that was the issue; her body tends to concentrate extra weight at her waist (she's "apple" shaped) and that has been proven to be associated with long-term health problems.