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Kurant · 06-13-2008, 10:22 PM

My situation is slightly different, but close enough I suppose.

My current wife was absolutely drop dead hot when I met her, she put on a few pounds after we got married, but was still just as beautiful, and frankly, I like thicker women, curvier hips that sort of this. After our baby was born we both put on a little bit of weight, to the point where I was unhealthy, and I was having back problems. We agreed to both help each other, and work at it together. After about 2 months, we had both lost about 20 pounds, and she just stopped. But I kept going and this was almost 2 years ago. I lost a total of 88 pounds, and have a flat stomach, in the best shape of my life at 30. I had the extra skin removed from my stomach and chest.. I continue to work hard to stay that way. But she didn't, she's done nothing, and she put back on everything she lost, and even gained some more.

Well, I'm a firm believer that just because you get married, you should never get comfortable, and take your partner for granted. You shouldn't just assume because your married, he finds you attractive. I'm sorry, but a huge part of any relationship is being attracted to your mate. On a mental level, that's never been a problem but physically, she just doesn't do it for me anymore.

Call me shallow, whatever you want, but 80% of these people who say that shouldn't matter, are completely full of shit. Most relationships start on a basis of looks anyway, why did it matter then, and it shouldn't now? Why did you ALWAYS try to look your best for that person, and now that doesn't matter?

It should matter, and it does matter.

Now, we are separated, and I've met the most incredible woman I've ever met in my life - and while I absolutely adore this woman, I can't commit myself to her. She's become my absolute best friend in the world. But, my heart still lies at home with my wife - I miss her everyday, I miss my family everyday, I've cried myself to sleep like a baby, but she has no interest in improving herself, for herself, or for me, and as much as it pains me, our papers are in the courts as we speak.

06-13-2008, 10:22 PM	#68 (permalink)
Kurant Junkie Location: Don't worry about it.	My situation is slightly different, but close enough I suppose. My current wife was absolutely drop dead hot when I met her, she put on a few pounds after we got married, but was still just as beautiful, and frankly, I like thicker women, curvier hips that sort of this. After our baby was born we both put on a little bit of weight, to the point where I was unhealthy, and I was having back problems. We agreed to both help each other, and work at it together. After about 2 months, we had both lost about 20 pounds, and she just stopped. But I kept going and this was almost 2 years ago. I lost a total of 88 pounds, and have a flat stomach, in the best shape of my life at 30. I had the extra skin removed from my stomach and chest.. I continue to work hard to stay that way. But she didn't, she's done nothing, and she put back on everything she lost, and even gained some more. Well, I'm a firm believer that just because you get married, you should never get comfortable, and take your partner for granted. You shouldn't just assume because your married, he finds you attractive. I'm sorry, but a huge part of any relationship is being attracted to your mate. On a mental level, that's never been a problem but physically, she just doesn't do it for me anymore. Call me shallow, whatever you want, but 80% of these people who say that shouldn't matter, are completely full of shit. Most relationships start on a basis of looks anyway, why did it matter then, and it shouldn't now? Why did you ALWAYS try to look your best for that person, and now that doesn't matter? It should matter, and it does matter. Now, we are separated, and I've met the most incredible woman I've ever met in my life - and while I absolutely adore this woman, I can't commit myself to her. She's become my absolute best friend in the world. But, my heart still lies at home with my wife - I miss her everyday, I miss my family everyday, I've cried myself to sleep like a baby, but she has no interest in improving herself, for herself, or for me, and as much as it pains me, our papers are in the courts as we speak. Last edited by Kurant; 06-13-2008 at 10:30 PM..