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Originally Posted by yellowmac
I would offer that if your parents did a good job of raising you, they'd do a good job of raising your kids. My grandma played a big role in helping to take care of me, and I'd like to think that I turned out pretty well. Mind you, this is based on an extremely limited world-view, so the norm may be totally different.
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Well, a big part of the reason I turned out semi-okay is because my mom had my stepdad to balance her out. They split up as soon as I left for college, and so if I ever leave our future kids at her house, it's going to be just her taking care of them... my stepdad would not be around (he would get his own time with them, but not at the same house obviously). I'm afraid of what she would be like without his balancing presence there. I would have turned out as one EXTREMELY screwed-up adult if my mom had been left to her own devices with me, that's guaranteed.
Also, my grandma lived in our house while I was growing up, and that was a huge help... but she and my mom are like night and day, in terms of personality, maturity, patience, and all the rest. My mom has some mood disorders. My grandma was like a Zen master.