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Originally Posted by Grancey
Now you're jumping to "hating kids", so it seems as if you are trying to start an argument.
I'll add another observation. I have observed my relatives laughing at things their children do that are unpleasant to others. I don't think that the parents are always aware of how unpleasant the preventable actions can be. For example, when my niece was about 6 she would grab my leg, sit on the floor and hang on. I would say let go, and the parents would laugh. Their laugher reinforced her bad behavior, which may have been a game that her parents played with her. For me to physically remove her would have been unacceptable behavior so I just had to endure. So, I think parents need to be more aware, that's all.
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You should have removed her. If one of my kids did that, I would expect you to, then they'd get more from me.
Another example of "it's the parents, not the kid". Your not removing her and allowing it to go reinforced it as much as the parents' laughter. A simple, "I don't find this amusing or comfortable. Let go of me now" then physically removing her would have gone a long way.
A very long time ago, while shopping in a sewing store, a friend's kid called me, then ran up and stuck me in the leg with a straight pin. I smacked his hand. Hard. He went running to mommy crying I'd hit him. She asked, "what'd you do?" When I said "The little brat stabbed me in the leg with a straight pin", she told HIM, "that's what you get for doing that".
There's no law that says those of us who don't like brats have to tolerate them. If I'm annoyed, someone's gonna know it.