abaya

Hmm, but are the descriptions you're getting only coming from the male side of the relationships? Just curious...

Edit: As a female, when I was 24 I probably would have fit quite a few of the OP's descriptions of his girlfriend. However, after 1-2 failed relationships by that point, I wasn't about to fuck up my chances in the next one... so I signed up for individual therapy, and continued doing that for several years (especially while ktspktsp and I were long distance). For me, it made a huge difference in quality of relationship... though really, the biggest difference is in how I relate to myself, and then that gets reflected in my other relationships, you might say. Just something to consider. Not saying that the girl has all the issues, because I agree that they're your issues as well (as someone else said)... but if you're both willing to hit up therapy, things could really improve. Or do you want to live this way forever? (A lot of people do, and they remain in a state of constant denial/misery.)

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