Maybe I'm jaded, but this sounds like every romantic relationship that ever happened between a man and a woman aged 20-25. Varying degrees of all of the above, but same story over and over. Perhaps it changes with age and experience?
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Good things about the relationship:
- We're great friends
- We're of similar intelligence
- Our families are very fond of the other partner respectively, and get along with each other
- Similar senses of humour
- We live together and haven't killed each other yet
- Finances are handled equally and fairly based on our relative earnings
- (mostly) Similar interests
Problems:
- She is less adventurous than me, due to her insecurities
- We have difficulty communicating some things (I can never give constructive criticism - she immediately gets defensive and starts arguing)
- She criticises me for little things - like when I don't pick the parking spot that she would have picked.
- I think she has some abandonment issues - if I'm asleep and she can't, she'll wake me and keep me awake until she is able to sleep...
- I am uninterested in marriage at this young age (24) - she claims the same but at the same time hints at it frequently
- She can be quite clingy and jealous (She makes me feel guilty if I wish to go out with my friends for an evening without her, and thinks that every conversation I have with an a female acquaintance is flirtation)
- We have different methods of approaching relationships with our friends (a minor comment that I would laugh off will be taken to heart by her, and she will argue and fight until the other party admits she is right and they were wrong)
- Sex is infrequent and uninteresting - I believe there's a communication gap which is causing other issues (above) to manifest subconsciously
- We probably have different goals for our lives right now (I would like to work and travel in foreign countries, whereas she wants to settle down and start a family)
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Every single person I know in a relationship longer than 3 years in this age bracket could describe their situation identically.