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- She is less adventurous than me, due to her insecurities
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Go for a day at the beach or some other outdoor activity with her and some of your friends and her friends. Often people, even deep into a relationship, are more comfortable with more friends around.
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- We have difficulty communicating some things (I can never give constructive criticism - she immediately gets defensive and starts arguing)
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What kinds of criticisms are you wanting to make and how do you attempt them?
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- She criticises me for little things - like when I don't pick the parking spot that she would have picked.
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I always park really far from the store so I have to walk and get exercise. It's really neither here nor there.
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- I think she has some abandonment issues - if I'm asleep and she can't, she'll wake me and keep me awake until she is able to sleep...
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Does she wake you frequently, or is it every now and again? I will occasionally (less than once a month) take benadryl to get some sleep.
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- I am uninterested in marriage at this young age (24) - she claims the same but at the same time hints at it frequently
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Oh, time for couples therapy.
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- She can be quite clingy and jealous (She makes me feel guilty if I wish to go out with my friends for an evening without her, and thinks that every conversation I have with an a female acquaintance is flirtation)
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Definitely time for couples therapy.
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- Sex is infrequent and uninteresting - I believe there's a communication gap which is causing other issues (above) to manifest subconsciously
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Go sign up for therapy right now. I can even send you recommendations.
Snowy hit the nail on the head. It may be time to go speak to someone. If you're both honest and open, it's a very real possibility that you can work hard and earn many, many happy years together.
Run, don't
walk to therapy.
Get it?