LLL

Thanks for your advice all of you. It's encouraging, in a weird sort of way, that I've thought pretty much the same as all of you from one time to another.

Regarding the body shape thing, yeah it's true that you can't do a great deal about that (I'm slim and will never be especially muscular, but that doesn't bother me), but the fact is she has a really large waist, a high percent body fat and doesn't do enough exercise and that equals bad health (probably). Saying "I'm ok with your shape" feels like I'm condoning her bad lifestyle and encouraging her ill health and I just can't do that.

Still, it definitely makes sense to follow up the depression angle; I'll see how that goes.

@acetylene - 100% with you on that. Feels like sound advice to me.