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She sounds depressed.
Exercise will help that. The best way to go about it? Model healthy behaviors! Get yourself up and going, and start doing active things as a couple. My boyfriend was key in encouraging me to be active when I was trying to lose weight, and the activity will lift her mood. It's so much easier to be active when you have someone to share it with. We hike, we bicycle, we walk, we go to the park and throw a frisbee or kick a soccer ball around. At home I've become his abs coach, since I'm the one who's taken all the Pilates and yoga classes.
If you're going to model healthy behaviors, make sure that extends to nutrition as well. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. You can't expect her to take your advice on healthy behavior if you're not sticking to it yourself.
There doesn't need to be a conversation about how you no longer find her attractive--yet. Just say you've decided that you need to get some exercise, and encourage her to join you. Structure the activities you do as couples to include some physical activity.
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