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Yeah, the gender distinction is totally unnecessary. People simply shouldn't hit each other. And while it may seem so, it certainly isn't any more wrong for a man to hit a woman than the other way around.
Whether or not it'll happen again is entirely up to the couple involved but I think that it's important to realize - and while it's been alluded to, I'm surprised it hasn't been further expounded upon - violent relationships are not only mutually disadvantageous but also mutually abusive.
It's easy to place the blame solely upon the attacker but to allow yourself to be emotionally or physically abused is to do your lover and yourself a disservice. If you can't love and respect yourself enough to put up boundaries enough to ensure at the very least, your own physical safety then you can't realistically expect anything more from your lover.
And while it's almost too obvious that you can't love anyone if you don't love yourself - the abused party can't truly love their partner unless they demand nothing less than their respect and an environment proper enough to facilliate the healthy growth of their love.
So while I don't agree with the statement that "men who abuse women are scum of the earth" or that they're deserving of the death penalty - I do believe that the abuser and the abused deserve each other equally.
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