Quote:
|
Originally Posted by girldetective
Its time for us both to take steps toward more genuine intimacy and I want to, but Im also reluctant. Im examining that reluctance and wondering if it is valid. Also, what are my values and do I even want to change them. So for me its rather important just now even though i may seem frivolous. Sometimes these are just the things the occupy our minds.
Edit: And, another question this brings to mind is Can one even change their value system t adjust to another's? I dont know this either.
|
I think your reluctance is valid, for sure. You are an adult and no one should cause you to question your own values. What is the reason you would want to change your
values? I can't comprehend why you'd even think about changing your values unless, in answer to your edit question, you were a hard, unloving, uncaring, monstrous excuse for a human being. I don't see you being either of those.
Based on your recent posts and the posts in this thread, it doesn't sound like it's genuine intimacy he's after. Questioning in order to understand yourself is one thing. But rewiring yourself to fit into his world view is just not right. This doesn't sound like communication or steps towards greater intimacy. Find someone who will communicate on
your terms.