little_tippler

This also stood out for me.

Well it varies really. When I am less sensitive but still in the mood, I need visuals. Preferably moving ones (video). Preferably normal looking people, and I like watching things I don't normally do. Random guys work in this scenario.

When I am more in tune with the sex vibe, my mind can do it for me. But usually I need specific men for that mental fantasy, men I know or have known. Sometimes I am tired of them all and I hate not having a name in my head. It's weird that. I guess that just some random guy wouldn't work because I'd have to make up body parts...seems confusing and I need to focus to get off.

I find it funny that guys think of exes...that is such a turn off for me. They are done with, gone. There's a reason its over and I don't dissociate the sex from the rest. It's all connected, for most women I suspect.

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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.

Fernando Pessoa, 1918