Willravel

Look at it this way: I've been shot with a gun before, but I still don't take what I believe to be unnecessary steps to avoid being shot again. I don't feel the need to be armed. I don't avoid walking through areas that have "gang activity" (something relative in San Jose, despite what the media might have you believe) and I even leave my house unlocked often, though I'm usually home.

I do have double pane windows with that wonderfully strong seal, which makes them quite difficult to break, and I have security doors (thought they came with the house). I also would avoid someone with a gun if I saw them. I'd not get into a physical confrontation with them.

I just don't see any reason to live in fear of what probably won't happen to me. If it happens, then shit. It probably won't though. And that's fine.
This means that either:
1) You weren't aware of the danger before it happened or
2) You're unreasonably afraid after the incident.

I don't think I fit into either of these. I'm basically aware of what's going on around me. I know that I could get in a car accident or even be shot again, but the odds still remain the odds.

The bottom line:
There is a point when preparedness crosses the line into paranoia. It would be unreasonable and paranoid for me to be afraid of a shark attack, for example. Yes, it could happen, but the odds are so slim that constant fear about it is unreasonable. When I was a victim of gun crime, I could have become paranoid, but I didn't. I'm not afraid of being shot again, as it's not likely to happen.