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Well, the blunt and fast approach is rarely witnessed in this country, its just not really very common. It's more usual for people to meet casually and then if there is some interest it can develop subtly from there.
My last ex and I met through friends and I'm thinking the interest was mutual from the first moment. So that makes it easier. Also, there were subtle hints - he made a lot of eye contact with me and directed bits of conversation specifically toward me while talking amongst several other people. Then also he held out his arm playfully when we left one bar to move on to the next, and I took it and smiled. So there were little hints placed that made it more or less clear there was something in the air. It felt very natural, and this is the key I think.
To avoid being creepy, a good idea is to stay away from cheesy pick-up lines, especially if it's a girl/guy who you just saw out of the corner of your eye on the bus. Not that you should let those situations get away, but it's pretty remote to juts hit on the first attractive person you see on the subway or whatever. There are better situations/moments for it I'd say.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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