girldetective

So, if your parents had allowed alcohol in their house you would have been 14 sitting in your living room with the neighborhood kids drinking koolaid punch made with whatever just to see what it was all about and usually ending up pretty sick?! How is that better or more responsible? Perhaps more comfortable, but not certainly not respectable.

I would be embarrassed to have my children drinking, thinking that I was not a good parent. It is irresponsible and disrespectful to break a law on purpose in front of your children. It just is. It shows them that they are separate from society and not a part of it.

It is very different to allow a child a sip of wine from your glass than to "allow alcohol" and to actually buy it for them. I cannot imagine looking at my daughter at 16 and saying, "Mary, Im on my way to the liquor store. Do you have your list written?" or "Dont forget to salt the rims, dear." Please. Fuck that.

Edit: In my house it wasnt an issue. It wasnt forbidden or not, it was talked about on the periph and the expectation was to respect the parents who in turn cared for and respected the children. It worked to get them to college and then they were considered adults, and their decisions their own (of course we didnt abandon them either). And we respected their adult decisions or learned to respect them.

Drinking is an adult pleasure. We have so few of them.

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