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Originally Posted by Seaver
She has the right to be offended.. I never explained the full comment to her, she only got the "stereotypical Jewish self-doubting guy" part of it. I moved on in the conversation because I didn't think twice... I simply assumed she understood my intention.
She had mentioned the previous date she lost a lot of family in the holocaust. Obviously she takes her religion and offenses to it seriously, and I understand how I probably hold the taint forever. What almost makes it worse is she repeatedly said she knows it wasn't my intention... but it still can't see me anymore.
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Dude, that sucks. I really feel for you. I gotta tell you, as a relatively hardcore Jew myself (training to be a rabbi) I don't find that comment very offensive-- much less unforgivable-- and if I'd heard you explain it, I wouldn't find it at all offensive. It's really pretty much the truth, even if it wasn't necessarily delivered in the ideal phrasing.
Most of us Ashkenazi Jews have lost some family in the Holocaust, and it's good that we can take our religion/culture seriously. But there's also such a thing as being hypersensitive.
If I had to guess, I would suppose that she has had unpleasant encounters with anti-Semitism in the past, and those experiences have hypersensitized her to comments.
But I wouldn't start worrying that you're an anti-Semite or anything. It doesn't sound like you are at all.