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neoinoakleys · 06-05-2003, 07:55 AM

OK, here is my 2 cents....

Take my reasonong with a grain of salt. I am speaking through my own experience...

I have cheated in the past, I have cheated many times...I am not proud, but I am not really sorry either.

This is the reason I did it...I was young, I was immature, I was selfish and I was just experimenting.

On some instances I have been caught and some that I have not. But that is neither here nor there.

Here are the reasons I did it:

In some instances, I was just lookng for fun and the opportunity had arisen. I was experimenting. Life is short and I thought "why not??" Afterall, I didn't want to be this 70 year old guy that sits around and ponders his life and thinks why didn't I take the chance??

Another reason, I was just too immature and selfish to tell the person I was with that I had feelings for someone else. I wanted to test the waters with the other person and make sure that they had similar fellings before I left my comfortable situation with the person I was with.

Regardless the reason, it was selfish and immature. But I have grown since then. I am not proud of what I had done, but I am who I am because of learning and growing through these experiences. I saw how my choices affected other people and myself. I saw the value of what committment means. I began to see what I lose by screwing around.

Now that I am older and have gotten it all of that out of my system, I am now much more aware of what I am looking for in a relationship and how I can be a better partner.

I am saying that there is nothing that you did wrong. Your GF's cheating does not in any way reflect upon you as a person. I am sure you did nothing wrong. This was just something that she needed to exrepience. She was being selfish and immature and someday she will understand and grow out of this.

You are definitely in a different stage in your life, and I am sure that you are looking for the person that is ready to commit, not the one that is still playing games and trying to find themselves...

I know it's not right and it's not fair, but that's just the way it goes sometimes.

Anyways, that is my 2 cents....

06-05-2003, 07:55 AM	#21 (permalink)
neoinoakleys Psycho Location: Michigan	OK, here is my 2 cents.... Take my reasonong with a grain of salt. I am speaking through my own experience... I have cheated in the past, I have cheated many times...I am not proud, but I am not really sorry either. This is the reason I did it...I was young, I was immature, I was selfish and I was just experimenting. On some instances I have been caught and some that I have not. But that is neither here nor there. Here are the reasons I did it: In some instances, I was just lookng for fun and the opportunity had arisen. I was experimenting. Life is short and I thought "why not??" Afterall, I didn't want to be this 70 year old guy that sits around and ponders his life and thinks why didn't I take the chance?? Another reason, I was just too immature and selfish to tell the person I was with that I had feelings for someone else. I wanted to test the waters with the other person and make sure that they had similar fellings before I left my comfortable situation with the person I was with. Regardless the reason, it was selfish and immature. But I have grown since then. I am not proud of what I had done, but I am who I am because of learning and growing through these experiences. I saw how my choices affected other people and myself. I saw the value of what committment means. I began to see what I lose by screwing around. Now that I am older and have gotten it all of that out of my system, I am now much more aware of what I am looking for in a relationship and how I can be a better partner. I am saying that there is nothing that you did wrong. Your GF's cheating does not in any way reflect upon you as a person. I am sure you did nothing wrong. This was just something that she needed to exrepience. She was being selfish and immature and someday she will understand and grow out of this. You are definitely in a different stage in your life, and I am sure that you are looking for the person that is ready to commit, not the one that is still playing games and trying to find themselves... I know it's not right and it's not fair, but that's just the way it goes sometimes. Anyways, that is my 2 cents.... __________________ It's My Duty to Please That Booty!!