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Old 04-17-2008, 07:24 PM   #9 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by ShaniFaye
I've never understood not being able to talk to your child. When I had my breast reduction a year and a half ago I explained the entire procedure to Amanda, exactly what they would do, how the recovery would be and just exactly why I was doing it.

I was on a message board for breast reduction (and other ps procedures, but I stayed in the section specifically for BR) It was totally amazing to me the number of women AFRAID to tell their children what they were doing, they were making up all kinds of stories to tell their kids, no matter what age they were.

Keep in mind, a BR is MAJOR surgery, its not like an augmentation, I was under the knife for 4 hours and my recovery took MONTHS. These women were telling their kids things like they were having surgery because they were SICK....how cant that not be more traumatizing than explaining what you're really doing. Heck these women were even lying to their bosses.....I'm sorry but when you take yourself from a double F cup to a C, people are gonna know you had "work" done.

People need to be honest with their kids, how better to teach them how to be better adults?

/sorry for the rant....this kind of stuff REALLY gets to me
While my mother never had plastic surgery, she did have a number of procedures done when I was growing up. When I was 8 or 9 my mother had to have a hysterectomy, and was in the hospital over Thanksgiving Day, no less. I can't imagine what it would have been like to have no clue as to what was going on. I'm sure in the end it was easier on both of my parents because I did know exactly what was going on and why Mom was in the hospital.

Like Shani said, we need to be honest with children--children learn from modeled behavior, and if you model to them that it's not okay to talk about these topics, and we need to be secretive about it, or not communicate clearly about the topic, then that's the idea they're going to walk away with, and take into adulthood.

Whatever happened to grown-ups being adults?
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