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It's not about determining my worth; that is independant of what anyone else thinks. It's analagous to wanting a partner who finds me very attractive, as opposed to just attractive enough.
Exactly. While number of partners doesn't determine this on its own, there is at least the underlying feeling that I'm not that special to her. It's not about measuring up to other guys per se, it's a desire to know that she's getting from me something that she can't get/hasn't gotten from anyone else. It's ridiculous and illogical, and that feeling shouldn't get in the way of an otherwise healthy relationship, but the feeling remains nevertheless.

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And you believe Bush and the liberals and divorced parents and gays and blacks and the Christian right and fossil fuels and Xbox are all to blame, meanwhile you yourselves create an ad where your kid hits you in the head with a baseball and you don't understand the message that the problem is you.