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Originally Posted by iblade
I recently lost my virginity. I'm 20. The first change I noticed in myself was that I wasn't obsessed with it anymore. I feel more calm. Of course I still want to have sex, but mostly because it's good, and because I want to improve. But my girlfriend told me she found me more attractive since I lost it (I lost it to her, she's 29 and not a virgin). I have had other people tell me that I look more adult. And even more handsome, even though they know nothing about me losing it...
What do you think? Did these changes happen to you too? What other changes did you notice?
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I think that the unphysiological changes are just a myth. I just lost mine last summer, and I was 25. I had always thought that sex would be- not only an ice-breaker but also a permanent rapport with the person. <= What I mean by this is that it is easy to think that if a girl goes all the way with you, you'll at least be her friend for the rest of your (and her) life, but it doesn't work that way. Everyone views sex differently- is what I learned from losing my virginity.
Lo and behold I still feel innocent, still get nervous around women, and still put them on a pedestal sometimes. Moreover, the girl I lost it to I got to know a lot more over the months, and even though she isn't less attractive physically from when I first met her, knowing her personality and how little she cares about me- despite getting with me, makes me completely unattached to her and probably 10x more curious about women than before, wondering if, since other women are assumably "better" (nicer), what it would be like to get with them.
As well, I would look at a guy who is a virgin, who is completely able to approach women like it's nothing- as less innocent than a non-virgin who still "reveres" women.
Oh, and I also thought that losing it would make me less jealous about other people and their love lives, since I never really had one until last summer. I was certainly, certainly wrong about that as well.